Many young women today are asking the question why they can’t find the right man or why most men find it hard to commit.
My answer to this question is because most women think if they sleep with a man, then the man will naturally fall in love with them. And that’s a very wrong mentality to have as a woman. The world has confused love with sex. What they don’t know is that they are full of lust not love. The lust of the eyes; we live in a world that is very fleshy; it’s all about self gratification. What can satisfy one soul and make them happy.
A woman that gives herself to a man before getting married, is a woman that thinks she has to give sex before she can get love from a man. That’s a low self esteem thinking. Ladies when you give your body to a man, they get very complacent and comfortable in the relationship. They won’t see the need of marrying you because you already gave him the most important and exciting part of the relationship.
You have to let him work really hard for you. In most cases you won’t likely get married if you give a guy a piece of your cake. He’s going to say, “for what reason do I need to get married? I owned her already and she’s mind.
Some women are into a 10 or 8 year relationship and are waiting for the man to pop the question. And they never did, you want to know why? Let me give you a little secret, be very selfish with your body. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.
Corinthians 6:19-20 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price.Therefore honor God with your bodies.
That means your body belongs to God and not yourself. Sex was distinctively created for marriage. So, when you give up your right as a woman and throw your body onto a man who doesn’t really want to build a future with you, you are only wasting your time, and telling men that you are not worth getting married to.
You were bought with a price, and you are worth so much more than you can ever imagine. Dating God’s way is very important. When you date someone who you know is from God there will be no regrets. When we choose to do things our way God allows things to play out in our lives to teach us a big lesson in life.
Therefore, it’s up to us to look to him for guidance and direction when looking for a mate. It gives Him great joy and pleasure when we depend upon Him for strength and wisdom and not leaning on our own understanding.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.
When he told us the right way on how to date, and failed to follow His lead. It is nobody’s fault but us. He will give us the grace and strength to get through whatever we might be going through, sometimes He will even take us out of a situation. However, it is very important to follow God’s lead.
The Key to Resolving the Dating Dilemma: Choosing Purpose Over Casual Connections
- Reserve Your Body For Your Future Husband: It’s time to stop playing the housewife and actually be a real one. Be very selfish with your body, don’t give away a piece of your pie to every man you think is the right one. Wait for your husband to share your body with.
- Be Intentional about Dating: Going into a relationship knowing what you want is the key to finding your ideal partner.
- Love Yourself: you are the most important person to yourself. Show up for yourself. If you don’t love yourself, how can you love someone else? Love first starts with you. Self-care or Self-love is the best thing you can ever do to yourself. When you take good care of yourself it helps with developing great self-esteem within you. Treat yourself to your favorite flowers, food, have a spa day, eat healthy, take care of your hair, nails, skin, if you don’t like your body; stop complaining about it and take action. Go to the gym or work out in your home to get in shape and get fit. etc….
- Have Self- confidence: Have confidence within yourself, by knowing your worth. You don’t need a man to tell you that you are beautiful, you already know you are. Walk with dignity and hold your head high. Believe in yourself.
- Never Confuse Love With Sex: Love is unconditional, when someone loves you they will actually take the time to get to know you. And not trying to get into your pants. Sex is beautiful, however it’s not love. Sex is all about the flesh and giving one’s pleasure. It should be done with the right partner that was made for you.
Conclusion, once you become a child of God, your body no longer belongs to you. Its Christ’s body now. You were blood bought and paid with a price. That’s why Galatians 2:20 says “it is no longer I that liveth but Christ that liveth in me.” When you date someone who is in the same faith like you; it is far more better than being with someone who doesn’t love Christ.