Either sin will keep you from the Word, or the Word will keep you from sin. ~ John Bunyan
In today’s world, staying pure while single can feel like a constant battle. But what if it’s also an opportunity to deepen your faith, build your character, and prepare you for a future filled with blessings? In this blog, we’ll uncover practical and faith-filled strategies to help you honor God, guard your heart, and navigate singleness with confidence and purpose. Ready to discover how purity can lead to freedom and fulfillment? Keep reading to uncover the secrets to thriving while single!
When you fall in love, it’s natural that both people want to express their love for each other in physical ways. However, God also wants us to stay sexually pure in our actions and thoughts. It’s tough, but showing love for one another while remaining pure is possible.
16 Powerful Ways to Stay Pure and Confident As a Single Woman
1. Guard your heart- Guarding your hearts means to talk to God about the relationship before you talk to the other person about the relationship. E.g, don’t move too fast in the relationship or become vulnerable. Rather foster a friendship before building an intimate relationship.
2. Set boundaries- Do you lust while watching romance movies? If your answer is yes, then you shouldn’t watch them. Choose to listen to worship songs instead of love songs. Don’t feed your mind with junk, rather feed your mind with God’s word instead. Stay away from romance movies, romance novels, love songs and friends that can easily influence you.
3. Surround yourself with Godly friends- 1 Corinthians 15:33 Says that evil company corrupts good character and that is so true! Have you been around a group of friends and being encouraged to stay pure? I know I haven’t. Your friends are more likely to pressure you to smoke, drink, have sex or do something that you know is wrong. However, when you surround yourself with Godly friends they encourage you to remain pure.
4. Have an accountability partner- Have someone you can talk to when you are tempted, or help encourage you in your purity walk. Eg. A mentor who you look up to.
5. Keep your thoughts pure- Your thoughts are truly who you are: I love this quote written by Margaret Thatcher:
“ Watch your thoughts as they become your words. Watch your words, for they become your actions. Watch your actions, for they become your habits. Watch your habits, or they become your character.” If you want to live a life of purity watch what you do well on!
6. Stay plunged into the Bible- “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” Psalm 119:105. I urge you to study the Bible on your own, not only to find out what it says about purity, but to keep your focus on Jesus! The Bible has a lot to say on purity and much more…
7. Pray- Build up a strong prayer life with God. It will help keep you focus, and God will totally help you. He wants you to live a life of purity!
8. Suggestions – When going on dates, you can hold hands to express your love to each other.
9. Make sure you avoid French kissing at all costs, because it can lead up sex. French kissing arouse sexual hormones in the body, so be very careful.
10. It’s ok to express your love in little ways, like holding hands, exchanging gifts, writing something sweet for each other that is appropriate and godly.
11. Don’t feed your fantasies – Choose your entertainment carefully. Stay away from real life t.v. shows like: Soap operas, The Real Housewives of Atlanta, Secular music, Romantic books, Television shows that shows a lot of sex scenes, Horror movies, and Pornograpics websites. All these things are open doors for the enemy to come in and reap havoc in you life. Feeding yourselves with these junk only makes it harder to remain pure in your action and to live holy for the Lord.
12. Remember whose property you are touching – You don’t own the person you are dating. That person belongs to God. Make a promise to God, and daily renew your commitments.
13. Decide where you’re going to draw the line, and allow God to help you. Tell yourself that you are not going to cross that line until marriage, don’t commit to it unless you mean it. The Bible says it’s a serious thing to make a vow to God.
14. Acknowledge Jesus presence on every date- Before you date, spend time in prayer and get spiritually ready for your date. Seek God‘s will in all you do, and he will direct your path.
15. Agree on your standards – Before sex becomes an issue in the relationship, talk about your standards with each other. Don’t focus on the negative e.g. it’s hard, how are we going to accomplish this. Encourage each other, hold each other accountable for your actions. Say things like, we can do this by the grace of God.
16. Quote “Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. And use this as your affirmation.
I truly hope that these tips help you to live a life of purity- physically, emotionally, and spiritually!