“The early part of a relationship, besides the fun and infatuation, is about establishing trust and a shared future.”
Dating today is not taken seriously, many people are dating for all the wrong reasons. Some people are dating because they want to have sexual pleasure. Some date just to meet new people. Some date for the love of money, while others date to find a lifelong partner.
Somewhere down the line people got it all twisted and wrong, they have confused love with sex. The majority of people think that sex is love. What they don’t know is that they are full of lust, not love. The lust of the eyes; we live in a world that is very fleshy; it’s all about self-gratification. What can satisfy one soul and make them happy.
Dating is all about getting to know each other and seeing if you are compatible with each other. If you are dating for marriage then this should be the time to get to know the opposite sex. Ask lots questions about the other person; talk about goals, families, desires, interests, ideas etc… don’t get caught up in infatuation, take your time and get to know the opposite sex very well.
Too often many people rush into a relationship and get married only to realize that the person they get married to was a mistake, and now their marriage ends in divorce. This happened because the person didn’t take his or her time to get to know the other person.
What seems to be love, in the beginning, turns out to be a nightmare. Living off looks and sexual compatibility will not sustain your relationship or marriage. It’s only when we choose to surrender our will to follow God’s will that’s when we’ll begin to see breakthrough happen and relationships thriving. When you are dating in hopes of marriage you should abstain from sexual intercourse.
Here is why. One: Since you are just starting to get to know the other person you don’t know their background or their family history. For all you know, this person can be a con artist or a serial killer. Two: If you have sex with someone that you hardly know and it turns out that he’s not the right one for you. You have created a soul tie with that person. When you have sexual intercourse with someone you automatically become one with that person. So, his curse now becomes your curse because you have given him a piece of your flesh.
Legally sex creates covenant, so if a man have sex with 15 different women think about how many covenants he just create with all these different women. Not only that; think about all the split personalities, and the curses that the person comes into agreement with.
That’s how sex work in the spiritual realm When we do these things out of the will of God. There is a reason why God created sex for marriage only. These things happens because of ignorance from the person. God said “my people perish for lack of knowledge.” Hosea 4:6
So, even thou both of you are not married yet, because you had sex with the opposite sex it binds both of you together spiritually.
1 Corinthians 6:16 Says, “do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in the body? For it is said, “the two will become one flesh.”
Three, if you have sexual intercourse and are not married you have sinned against your own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.
3 Things to Keep In Mind When Dating to Married
1. Courtship: Get to know the opposite sex very well, before you decide to take the relationship to the next level. Be friends with each other first and never rush the process.
2. Ask a lot of questions and talk about dreams, ideas, families, goals, interests, desires, religion, finance etc…
3. Do a thorough background check: If you don’t know this person, get to know his family, and family history as well. Ask about generational diseases, premature deaths, dishonesty, and how the family handles finance as a whole.
In conclusion having the mindset of marriage and walking confidently knowing who you ultimately set you up to meet your future king.