Are the wounds of past relationships holding you back from living your best life? Healing isn’t always easy, but it’s the key to unlocking true freedom and joy. In this blog, we’ll uncover the practical steps and faith-filled strategies that can help you let go of pain, rediscover your worth, and embrace the abundant life God has planned for you. Curious about how to move forward and thrive? Keep reading to find the peace and fulfillment your heart has been searching for!
If you have been in a relationship before and you left for whatever reason or the person leaves you. Getting into another relationship right away is not the best solution to help you move on. There is an idiom that says “time heals all wounds.” What this means is that you need to give yourself time to heal.
Going through a healing process is not easy, sometimes the process is dark and depressing; however, not everyone takes long to heal. It all depends on the individual and how much damage has been done to that person.
Everyone’s healing process is different, sometimes a person may need 1 year, 2 years or even 5 years before that person is completely healed from all the hurt and pain that he or she has been through.
Think about it; if you have been in a relationship for many years the other person becomes a part of you. You have given your body over in sex to your boyfriend which joins both of you together to become one. You have just made a covanant with that person by sealing it with sex. This is called soul ties or covenant making.
However, if you and your significant other decide to break off the relationship for whatever reason, both of you are going to feel pain, hurt, betrayal, disappointment etc.… Now both of you are now left with a broken heart. Think of it this way, when you glue something together it causes it to stick or bond. Now if you try to remove that object that you glued together it will rip apart which will create damage. So it is with any relationship whether Godly or ungodly. A broken heart happens because you both loved each other, and to top it off sex was involved.
Sex has a huge role to play in relationships; however, the majority of the world today is having sex out of a marriage and has a lack of understanding that there are consequences to their actions. God is the one that created sex for a few reasons.
God created sex to procreate the earth, but he did this only through marriage. When God created Adam and Eve God blessed them and said “be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth”. Genesis 1:28 therefore, God created sex in marriage because God is very interested in families. God wanted the earth to be filled with lots of people, but this must only be done through marriage.
God created marriage for companionship; because God is so interested in the lives of families, he wants husband and wife to be so connected and close to each other through sex.
God also created marriage for support; a wife’s role is to support her husband’s physical needs through love and affection, emotionally which is to encourage her husband, socially which is to communicate with her husband and mentally which is to build up her husband. These are all a woman’s roles as a wife.
Now; in today’s world, you have a girlfriend and boyfriend who is misguided about what’s in the word of God. Most women today are playing the role of a wife to a man without a ring on her finger. She takes this role and plays it very well for the man to see what she’s worth.
She continues to do her wifely duties as she hopes for him to say to her “will you marry me”? Ladies you should not play the role of a wife when you’re not. No wonder the man is not married to you yet. Some women have been in a relationship for 8 – 10 years with no ring on their finger, and wonder why the man hasn’t popped the question yet. I will do you the honor of telling you why.
Why should he pop the question when you already gave the man everything; he didn’t have to work hard on chasing you down. You make it very easy for him. He got sex, cooked food, cleaned the house, and paid bills. This man got your heart, he’s too comfortable with the relationship. He said to himself I got her now; she’s not going anywhere. He locked you in without you even knowing it.
If you already give all yourself to a man and play the role of a wife, what makes you think he’s going to marry you? While some men may see the treasure that they have found and marry a woman who is playing the wife role, the majority of men are not willing to do such a thing.
Number one; these men are going to say why do I need to get married? I already have her. Number two; they see marriage as just a piece of document to show. Number three; they already have everything they need which is sex. So, ladies dating will not help you move on.
You will find yourself going through the cycle of dating the same types of men who will only leave you with lots of wounds and broken hearts.
Heartbreak to Healing: 10 Powerful Ways to Rebuild Your Life After a Breakup
1. Take time to get to know yourself better and what you want out of life
2. Evaluate yourself, and ask yourself questions, why didn’t the relationship work?
3. What did I learn from this relationship that I can apply to the next one when I am ready to put myself out there again?
4. Learn from your mistakes, we all make mistakes that we are not proud of. Learn from them and then move on.
5. Don’t allow the past to affect your future. You are not defined by your past; what happens in your past does not define who you are.
6. Allow yourself to heal completely; don’t rush to go back into a relationship. This is the time you need to heal and work on your goals and dreams.
7. Be grateful that God has freed you from a relationship that was potentially destroying your life and causing you to be in a dark season.
8. Use your singleness to better yourself, do what you love. Work on new skills to better yourself and set goals. There is no shame in being single, a lot of women are single and happy.
9. Forgiveness is very important, give yourself grace. Don’t beat up yourself; everyone makes foolish decisions at some point in their life. Forgive yourself and and the other person as well. Don’t look back, if God forgave you, you can forgive yourself as well. Forgiveness is necessary in order to heal completely Philippians 3:13-14 Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.
10. Embrace your singleness, the right person for you will come along when the time is right. There is another idiom that says “good things come to those who wait.” Be patient, have faith, and work on your goals and God will work it out for you.